Joined a new department at work roughly six weeks ago. Manager has a lapband and speaks freely of it. Looking at him you may or may not know but he's an open book with that stuff. While I'm not looking to share my journey just yet.
Now I'm visibly the largest in the department of the women and likely the guys as well. But both sexes make awful jokes or comments about being or getting fat ... Like the one girl who likely wears a size 4 or even a 6 said. I can't keep eating like this. I'm going to get a stroke and die or whatever it is fat people get when their hearts can't take it anymore. And I almost corrected her to say its a heart attack and ur skinny azz could get one just like a fat person. It's aggravating and insensitive. ... Like the worst possible thing that could happen to a human being us that they wind up fat !
Am I taking it personal? Yes ! Should I ? Y not?
Turning the other cheek I make fat jokes often or fat comments often but they are usually towards myself, not for that audience but folks closer to me. It's not right and its self loathing. Part of what I was supposed to be working on while in therapy and in life in general. It's mean and hurtful even if its towards myself and others. That begs the question what gives me the right to be so angry with the folks at work when in guilty of a similar offense ?
That's so disrespectful. I get very upset when people say things like that, too. When I was in high school, our cheerleading coach told us not to drink because we'd gain weight. I angrily pointed out that I was overweight, but losing, and I didn't drink.
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